Reclaiming Our True Nature : The Authentic Feminine & Masculine

If we had a pendulum that would show the lightness and darkness within our humanity, or the light and shadow areas in our subconscious, the pendulum would be swinging really high right now to such a place of incongruency that it would seem quite disheartening.  Yet if you are in a state of consciousness, you would know that this is an incredible opportunity for healing.

What do I mean?

Well, if we look at what is happening in our society right now – whether it’s about the CDC (Center for Disease Control) selling out to pharmaceutical giants and approving vaccinations that are harmful to children, or whether it’s about corrupted politicians getting corporate payoffs and passing bills that undermine the overall well-being of society, or whether it’s about policemen or college freshmen feeling entitled, from a delusional place of power, to abuse other civilians – All these news shows the thread of our humanity’s shadow getting darker and darker from moment to moment.  Yet the darker the moment, the greater the possibility we have for awakening ourselves to a higher place of consciousness, where we can make life-giving choices that benefit all beings.

There is an energetic paradigm shift that is happening within our minds and bodies – and it is about achieving a complete harmony and balance of the energies within ourselves – the yin and yang energies, the divine feminine and sacred masculine energies, that are part of everything in Creation.  These energies are necessary for us to have in harmony within ourselves, as without them in balance, we as a humanity cannot reach our full potential – a state of peace, intimacy and prosperity.

This is an exciting time and a critical one for our humanity, as this is the 1st time we have the consciousness to create this harmonious balance that will take us to the next level of Divineness, that will birth authorship and stewardship of this planet.

As the Dalai Lama has said, this process begins with us women, by reclaiming our sacred masculine energy 1st to birth the divine feminine energy within ourselves.  Only then, we women will create a space, an opening for the sacred masculine to be embraced and be birthed within our men.  Why does it start with us women? and why reclaim the sacred masculine first?

The Divine Feminine – the all knowing, compassionate, forgiving, loving energy – can only be birthed from a container that can authentically support it.  This container is the essence of the Sacred Masculine.  The sacred masculine energy forms the vessel for the divine feminine – the fruit – to flower.  The sacred masculine is similar to the branch of a tree or the stem of a flower – without it, there is no structure for the seed – the feminine – to be supported, develop and grow.

So how do us women start reclaiming our sacred masculine energy?  We start by transforming the inauthentic images we have of men.  Only then, we can embrace the sacred masculine energy within ourselves.  This is a critical step as it is the masculine energy that allows us women to be and show up in a sacred way that’s aligned with our highest Self.  It is the masculine energy within us that has us take a stand for what we want to see in the world.  It is the masculine energy within us that gives us the courage to step into someplace greater than ourselves.  It is the masculine energy within us that gives us the strength to hold our stance/boundaries in space and time when we are scared.  It is the masculine energy within us that is the container, the structure, the vessel for the Spirit, the Light to be birthed within ourselves.  It is the sacred masculine that must be awakened within us first for the divine feminine to be birthed and for subsequent change to occur.

As women, we want aggression, violence and war to end.  We want authenticity and transparency from our leaders.  We want respect and reverence from the men in our lives.  We want a loving and kind world for our children. We want a new humanity now that is a stewardship for this planet.  As women, we are at the source of all of this. We can make this happen.  We are the only ones that can.  It starts with each one of us women doing our own inner work – shifting our paradigm – shifting our perception of how we see the masculine in our lives – so that we see its real beauty and grace, its strength and courage, its alignment &  rootedness – so that we women can then embrace all this beauty, grace, strength, courage, alignment and rootedness within ourselves.  Then, and only then, we will see and embrace all the beauty, grace, strength, courage, alignment and rootedness in the men in our lives and in our world – and celebrate it, so that we birth a divine feminine that is an intuitiveness, a knowing of highest consciousness, that guides our humanity into an authorship and stewardship of a thriving planet for all beings.

As women, we have to remember that man is just one representation of the masculine energy. It’s not the totality of it.  Yet, over the past generations, we have collapsed our distorted perceptions of men with the authentic masculine energy that contains creation…. to the point we can’t discern which one is our perceived illusion and which one is real; which one harmed us and which one created us; which one we protect ourselves from, and which one we need to embrace….

As women, throughout our generation, our mother’s generation, our grandmother’s generation, our great-grandmother’s generation,  and even further back in time….. we have been subconsciously “protecting” ourselves by avoiding, suppressing, diminishing and even annihilating the masculine energy, in the hope that we, women, the feminine can survive.  Yet, thru our own quest for survival, we have unknowingly been avoiding, suppressing, diminishing and even annihilating a part of ourselves – our own God given energy – the sacred masculine – that we desperately need within us, flowing thru us, to stand as a whole complete human goddess on this earth, with divine existence and purpose.

The divine feminine and the sacred masculine energies are two sides of the same coin, and as we avoid, suppress, diminish or annihilate one, we unknowingly do the same to the other.  These energies are interdependent on one another and are both critical to our human survival.   They are the yin and yang.  They are the “she” and “he” that unite to birth the “son” – the triune – that births Creation.  Without one, there is no other, there is no third, there is no existence, there is no purpose, there is no Creation.

Thus, it is up to us women to birth a different reality – to shift this distorted images within ourselves so that a new balanced humanity can be birthed.  As we shift our sacred container, we will rebirth Creation and birth what we real-ly want to see in the world.

The time is NOW.  We must go within, unveil the distorted pictures of the masculine that we have from our past, transform them, and replace them with the authentic images found in nature.  At this point, nature is the most authentic landscape to see the real embodiment of the sacred masculine and divine feminine.

So, I am inviting all women to join me in this shift and create a harmony and balance of these energies within ourselves NOW, so that as a collective we birth the conscious humanity that will be the stewardship for a peacefulloving, prosperous planet for all beings!

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Parenting from a Real place

I woke up feeling sad about my son and the evening we had last night.  We both went to sleep upset without talking to each other. I felt like he disrespected me by cutting me off, yelling at me, and slamming the doors.  He seemed angry and confused, and I couldn’t understand why.  I was totally disappointed at him for ruining our evening.  I just wanted him to take responsibility for leaving the lights on and his coat out, and he deflected the whole issue by saying that I was blaming him for things he didn’t do.  I was trying to be patient by keeping my cool and letting him know that it had nothing to do with blaming him but with him owning what he didn’t do.  It didn’t work.  The more I tried to explain, the sassier he got, until I sent him to his room.  However, the sassiness didn’t stop there. No000.  He just kept screaming behind the closed door, until I told him to zip it, otherwise he would have his play date taken away. This situation was out of control.

Yet when I chose to step away into my sunroom, I paused.  I became in touch with what is sacred, what is real …. and then I smiled. I realized that what is real-ly sacred is not my feelings. My feelings are part of the drama. What is really sacred is life…. the bare trees, the brown leaves, the spare grass, the blue sky…. all that is around me.  It is then that I realized that I get to describe what I see from where I stand, and that things can be described in very different ways…., depending on where I stand.

If I stand where I see life being sacred, beautiful, fun, loving and peaceful, then that is where I choose to see things from. However, if I stand where I see life being hard, sad, a fight, a struggle, right, wrong…, then that is where I choose to see things from.  This is not the way it is.  This is just the point of view I choose to see.  This is not right nor wrong. This is the paradigm I adopted early on from my childhood models.  This is the thread of my humanity. This is what makes me human.

Yet, it is by continuously embracing my humanity, that I am more in touch with my own divinity – what makes me real.  With this awareness, I now open the possibility for me to choose to transform my paradigm of seeing things at any moment in time – for that I am extremely grateful.  Thank you Divine Spirit of mine ;)))

From this place of being grateful and connected to what is real, I chose to walk into my son’s room.  He was awake and I asked him if we could chat.  He said yes.  I said that I was so sorry for yelling at him last night and that I was sorry he felt blamed – that was not my intention.  I explained that I had gotten upset and frustrated because he had forgotten to pick up his coat and shut the lights off.  However, instead of pausing and feeling what I was real-ly upset about, I projected my anger towards him, and for that I was really sorry.  I guessed that the impact of my behavior on him was that he felt hurt, diminished, scared and possibly even terrified and ashamed.  I asked him if he disagreed or if there was anything else he wanted to add, and he said no.  I said that I was committed to speaking to him from a place of the heart, where I real-ly see him. When I’m not in that place, I commit to taking a pause and even stepping away if necessary before I speak to him.  I asked him if he can forgive me…. and he said yes and gave me a big hug.  I asked him if there was anything he’d like to say.  He said he was sorry for yelling back and being sassy.  He felt hurt, scared and did not know what else to do.  Then he felt blamed and angry and then wanted to hurt back. At that point I hugged him some more and said I’m sorry.  We hugged for a little while.  My heart was full 🙂